Are You a Stressed Out Mom Wearing the Busyness Badge of Honor, but Would Enjoy Simple Living and a More Intentional Life with Less Stress? 3 Tips to Break Free of Busy

Hey Friend

I love to be doing something as I am very active and mutlitpassionate, so I really have to intentionally makes choices as to what takes up my time.  I see you trying to do it all and feeling proud of yourself for getting so many things done, but sometimes it is like a busy badge of honor and can be very harmful to your health and relationships all around you and you can really only sustain this for a short time before you hit burnout.  You want to have meaning and purpose in your life, but your busyness is taking that away from you.

I was at a christian leadership conference last month and Ally Worthington, who is  a speaker, author, business coach, and podcaster was there and she has a book called Breaking Busy and even though I have not read it, it might be a place to start for you.  I took a few of my tips from her, but most of what I want to teach you today is how I TRY to live each and every day.

We each have a different level of limits and you need to be aware of your limits or you will get burnt out quickly.  Don’t ever compare yourself to someone else and what they are doing.  They may be in a different season than you and oh my gosh do we have alot of seasons throughout our lives as moms! I mean seriously…having teenagers that can take care of themselves is way different than having babies and toddlers that need help with all their daily needs. 

At our conference Ally talked about making the right list-don’t make a to do list, make a DONT DO list.  I love this so much, because so many times we are thinking of all that we need to do, but if we eliminate the things we don’t like to do, then we will have less stress.  If you want your life to be about what you are meant to do, then you need to stop doing what you think you SHOULD be doing.  

Ally said to ask yourself these 2 questions. First, What is sucking the life out of you right now? And Second, Does this activity get you closer to reaching your goals?

Ask these 2 questions for every single activity you are doing right now.  After analyzing all your activities, write down every activity that  you are saying yes to that you think you “should” be doing, but in reality should be on your DON’T DO list!  Get that list started!

Something I used to do was volunteer at my kid’s school.  Sometimes when you work from home, you feel like you should do that, but honestly, that was exhausting for me and I didn’t enjoy it at all!  Every once in a while was fine, but I did not enjoy it on a regular basis, so that is something I would have put on my DON’T DO list years ago.  

Another tip for future things that come up to protect your time and happiness after you have your don’t do list is the 10-10-10 analysis where you ask yourself when making a decision, how will you feel about the decision 10 minutes from now, 10months from now, and in 10 years.

And my favorite tip from Ally was to say, thank you for thinking of me, but unfortunately in this season of my life, I’m over capacity, but thanks for asking me!  Isn’t that awesome?

Right now I live my life so intentionally that I don’t have alot of things I would take off my plate, but if you are feeling stressed out trying to do too many things, the don’t do list would be a fabulous place to start for you!  Everyday decisions  and daily habits will  break the busyness patterns if you simply start small.

 

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Monica